Ok so for all of you out there that have been pregnant please help me out here. I am a nervous wreck! All day at work yesterday I have shooting pains down my back and into my rear and I can’t even stand up after sitting for so long. I have to sit for 10 hours a day and I guess my body can’t take it. I went to HR to see if they had anything they could help me with and they don’t. They said that it is the baby sitting on a nerve and that the only to help it is to walk around every 30 minutes but with the job I have I cant do that. On top of that I was cramping pretty bad yesterday. I called my doctor and the nurse didn’t seem too worried and told me to just walk around and if the cramping continued to call her back. Well it did but eventually went away last night. BUT I can’t take the back pain. I mean it really hurts and I wish there was something that I could do about it.
On top of that the baby is barely moving now. Last night she didn’t move at all. I was so worried all night long. I am just full of worry right now. I don’t want to do anything wrong or miss any signs of trouble and lose the baby. It is a scary thing and I am exhausted from just worrying all the time. If I could just buy a heart monitor and sonogram machine I would!! My body is getting to be warn out from all of this stress though. Why can’t the doctor see me every week? I will pay for it, I don’t even care anymore.
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ReplyDeleteKarissa, take a deep breath. Several of them. First things first, remember that Anissa is firm in God's grip and that HE is taking care of her right now. Your stress and anxiety can affect her movement AND even moreso your ability to DETECT her movement. My doc said that women believe that their babies move more BECAUSE they are on bed rest, when in fact, the movement hasn't changed at all... the Mom was just able to be still and listen to her body.
ReplyDeleteSitting for 10 hours is definitely putting strain on your sciatic nerve causing you pain. Are your feet/legs/behind falling asleep? That is often caused by that too.
You may have to have the doctor PRESCRIBE and ORDER walking around every 30 minutes. If your employer wants to keep you on board (which they do) they will accommodate.
During those walks, however, be SURE TO show that you are not sauntering around or taking advantage. Make it clear that you are stretching, walking, praying, breathing and getting right back to work (not walking around, texting, getting snacks from the cafeteria, for example.)
Your employer is required to honor the doctor's orders as pregnant women are a highly protected class.
I would also recommend taking a pillow to work (throw pillow from the couch) and putting it in your desk chair.
That worked for me that last trimester. I also had to concentrate on sitting up straight and even put a paper box under my desk to elevate my swelling feet. Doing these things on your own and having an open dialogue with your boss about it shows him/her that you take your job seriously and are not seeking attention, but are doing all that you can to ensure that you contribute to the team for as long as you possibly can.
Don't worry about these back pains being contractions... not yet. Also, to make yourself calm down and feel better, after dinner (or at a set quiet time each night) lay on your left side and be still. Concentrate on feeling her move. Talk to Mandrae and mark her movements on a piece of paper if you have to.
The fact that you are this concerned about her shows that you are already a good Mom and are already so in love with her and only want to do what is right for her.
Relaxation and prayer and calming down are really the most important things you can give Anissa right now. She will channel calm or she will channel stress.
About wishing you could have a heart monitor and sono on her at all times... I KNOW THE FEELING! I wish there was a hidden camera in the Kinder classroom. That feeling never really goes away, I'm afraid. We just have to keep giving our kids back over to God and let Him take control again. And again. And again. That is easier said than done, trust me...
Love you!
(Sorry for the novel. You are probably sorry you asked...)
o my goodness melissa thank u so much for the comment!! I really really needed that. I am crying right now bc it is just really nice to hear someone understand how I feel and I will take all of what you said to heart. U have no idea how much you helped me and I feel alot better. I have just been so stressed out and your words were just a huge encouragement to me. Thank you so much! You're a great friend!
ReplyDeleteGlad I could help. We Moms have to lift each other up. Just glad you reached across the "blogosphere" and asked!
ReplyDeleteYou're doing great.
I was just about to write a whole bunch to you, but then I read what Melissa said and that was pretty much it! I'd almost bet it is your sciatica. A friend of mine had pain so bad her doctor prescribed her some pain medicine. Hope to see you Sept 13th!
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